Recently I got into a conversation with a nice woman on a topical issue: Instagram.
The woman, a successful entrepreneur of 35, mother to three kids asked for tips on how to deal with social media, especially Instagram. She wanted to remain anonymous, but agreed with sharing a part of our conversation with you, because I think she is not the only one who feels this way sometimes.
This is what came up in our conversation:
“I’m a bit ashamed to admit, but I have a love-hate relationship with Instagram. I follow many mothers who take pictures of their daily lives with the kids. The accounts that I often like best, make me uncertain at the same time. Everything looks so perfect. Or deliberately “nonchalant”. Even though I know that in reality it will not always be so perfect, I am often wondering where these women find the time to post almost every day such beautiful pictures while they are working mothers. And although I am often quite confident, I notice that I feel a pressure to conform to these standards and also to keep my account up to date. And I must confess that I find it quite hurtful when I loose followers after I post something. I once thought about quitting, but that would be a shame. My husband says I take the online hassle way too seriously. I understand what he means, but I find it really fun. Many accounts make me happy and inspire me.”
Our conversation got me thinking. It was not the first time this topic came up during a conversation. Most recently during a girlfriends dinner the advantages and disadvantages of Instagram were also the subject for at least half an hour. And during workshops social media is a common topic, especially among working mothers.
If you recognize yourself in the above words, I have a few tips for you that I would like to share for inspiration to keep Instagram especially fun and inspiring, the way I think is meant to be.
-Limit the number of accounts you are following.
Every now and then scroll through the accounts you follow and be critical. Better to focus on a few instead of not knowing where to start looking.
-Follow merely accounts that truly make you happy and/or inspire you.
Some might be fascinating but ultimately provide a less feeling. It is important to ask yourself where this feeling comes from, to look inward and work on it. But honestly, why would you look at something that doesn’t bring you joy?
-Do not go online if you are busy or sensitive.
Being active online is much more time-consuming than is often realized. So if you already are in hurry or are feeling restless then please do NOT go online. Online platforms excite the brain and are designed in a way that won’t truly satisfy you, making to have s short look at it almost impossible, and if you do so, you will even feel more restless.
-Be aware of what you bring into the world without taking it too seriously.
Ask yourself what is my intention with this post? What do I want to achieve with it? Is there a chance I might regret this post? If you have an account just for fun, then keep it fun and keep it light. And post only things that come from the heart or just make you smile.
-Do not take it personal if someone unfollows you.
It can almost feel like back at school when you were not invited to a party when someone unfollows you. At larger accounts there is a coming and going of people, but when you have a bit ‘smaller’ account chances are you know almost exactly who your followers are. Which can make it feel more personal when someone decides to leave. Tell yourself: ‘Everyone is free to do whatever she/he wants. For every unfollower there will be a nice follower.’ Although it might feel personal, just let it go. Your account says something about you, but it is just a tiny reflection of who you truly are! And remember that you also have personal favorites. So maybe someone is just like yourself keeping things more simple and clear online.